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Motivation for January

Why do most people quit on their new year's resolution?

Did you set a new year’s resolution this year? Are you still on track?  People set goals with the best of intentions however life can get in the way and the goal is no longer a priority.  There are lots of reasons why people may not continue with a goal they set at the beginning of January.  Let’s explore a few areas that may help someone keep motivated and continue their chosen path.

Why do we set goals?

Most people set a new goal or new years resolution because they would like to change something in their lives.  This could be to quit a bad habit like smoking or to become more organised.  Some people set fitness goals as they want to be healthier in the coming year.  Setting goals, if done correctly can be an effective way of achieving an outcome for change.  Creating new positive habits isn’t always easy.  The mind will always look for the easiest option and if that is to do nothing then guess what you will feel like doing?  It's these feelings of taking the easy option that allow us to make excuses as to why we can’t act today.  Why do we procrastinate and why do we find ourselves way off track and giving up on our goal.  Once we give up it's easy to forget we ever started in the first place.  It’s easy to allow ourselves to be comfortable with what we have and settle for the easy option. 

But hang on….WHY did we set that goal? Why did we want to make that change? The answer is that there was something within our lives that we were not happy with.  Something that needed to change.  The best way of staying on track is to remember WHY you started in the first place.  Is it to lose a few pounds for a summer holiday?  Is it to create a healthier habit to avoid any health scares? WHY lose more weight for that holiday? WHY avoid a health scare? These questions may sound strange however if we really explore the reason that we wanted to make a change in the first place and keep this at the forefront of our mind we will find a strong enough reason to drive us forward.  The WHY has to be strong and emotional and if it isn’t it may be that it wasn’t really a change that was passionately needed in the first place.

Begin with the end in mind.

There was a point where we decided to make a change.  Where we said, ‘enough is enough I am not staying on this course anymore’.  Making that decision is the first step.  The second step is to see ourselves already there.  Begin with the end in mind.  If we cannot see ourselves already there, then how do we expect to get there?  Visualising an outcome can help with the belief that it is possible.  Sometimes we know where we want to be however, we don’t know how to get there.  Focussing on the destination and why we want to get there will help the journey unfold. Taking positive action steps and staying focused on the end goal will support the outcome.  The journey is part of the outcome so enjoy it.

Why do some people object to change?

Humans are creatures of habit, and we like to keep things simple.  Creating new positive habits can be hard work and we like to be comfortable. Who is to say that this change is going to work? What if we put all this effort in and we fail? Why would we put ourselves through that?  Fear of failure is the main reason people object to a personal change. However, most people don’t realise that failure is a part of success. We wouldn’t have KFC if Colonel Sanders gave up when he had his first rejection.  We also wouldn’t have had the lightbulb if Thomas Eddison didn’t have so many failures. 

What motivates people

There are different things that motivate people for different reasons depending on their current situation.  One of the great coaching tools is Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.  This allows a person to see where they are on the pyramid and understand what their needs are and why they focus on what they do.  For example, a homeless person will need security warms and food as a priority and not be ready to focus on Self actualisation.  The picture below shows the different motivational needs.  Where are you? 

How does a life coach help?

A life coach can help explore what it is you really want and help you set up a plan to get there. A good coach will help you find what motivates you and help dilute any fears. If you would like to know more about my personal coaching sessions, please reach out to me here.

Jodie B Wellness and Wellbeing Coach
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